Category Archives: Positive Growth

Death and Illusions

I know I talked about death many times before. Perhaps, I am rehashing many things that I wrote about. But whatever the case is, it is something that is always on my mind. You can say that having death on your mind constantly is a very bad idea. It would always make you anxious and scared.

This is not true. In fact, being aware of death constantly brings clarity to my life. It is only death that has added any value to my life. It is only death that has added any value to your life. Because I know that I will die one day, I am consciously aware of the finite amount of time that I have. Because of this, I don’t dwell in so much nonsense. I try my best to always, always be joyful and happy regardless of what is happening around me.

I guess the topic of death appeared again because I read a fantastic excerpt from The Sheltering Sky by Paul Bowles. Here’s the excerpt:

“Death is always on the way, but the fact that you don’t know when it will arrive seems to take away from the finiteness of life. It’s that terrible precision that we hate so much. But because we don’t know, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet everything happens a certain number of times, and a very small number, really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. Perhaps not even. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless.”

When I read the excerpt, it really resonated with me. I find life so miraculous. I don’t even know how I exist. Yet, everything is fine. There are so many forces in play that sustain my existence here on earth without me being aware of them. Continue reading

Dreams and Goals

“What are your dreams and goals?” Many people would ask me this question on a frequent basis. Apparently, it is a great way to gauge a person’s future capabilities based upon his dreams and goals. Generally, it tells others what a person is about and sometimes it is an interesting conversation starter.

I know this may sound stupid, but I never liked this question because I don’t know what my dreams and goals are. To others it may be obvious what their dreams and goals should be, but I don’t have any specific dreams or goals.

I don’t have any vision of what my life should be. I have no foresight of what kind of girl I will marry nor how many kids I will have. There are no goals about the kind of house I will live in or the different types of sports cars that I will buy. There is no dream career, nor how much money I want to make in life.

You may be thinking, “Luigi what are you doing? With no dreams and goals, how do you traverse through life? You will have no direction of where to go and what to do.” Continue reading

Affirmations

I remember reading a lot of self-help books throughout the years. One of the most common self-help methods is known as affirmations. Affirmations are basically statements that you repeat out loud or in your thoughts on a regular basis. You repeat them to reinforce and bring about certain desires into your life. For example, repeating the phrase, “I am happy”, daily can subconsciously plant the idea in your mind that you are happy.

Supposedly whatever you practice, you become good at it… This makes sense because affirmations are just like that. They are repetitive statements you make, so that you create exactly what it is that you want within yourself. Or at the very least, it will trigger a response from within you to pursue after what it is that you want.

Affirmations are powerful tools that can help one develop a strong, and clear mind. It can also do the opposite. For example, if I say that “I am happy” or “I am successful” all the time, but my reality differs, then I could spiral down the path of depression. The more reality differs from my expectations and desires, the more suffering I can bring up. Continue reading

Somecar Named Desire

For the longest period of time I have always wanted to be a monk. It’s just that in my experience of life, I feel that many things that we do are superficial. When the survival process is taken care of by just going to the supermarket, there is an abundance of time and energy for people to do anything they want.

But what do people do? They spend most of their lives making a living. I don’t understand this because every creature on the planet is making a living. We are the smartest creature on the planet and we have made it so simple to live. Yet, people make survival the biggest priority in their lives, even though we no longer have to struggle for it.

It just seems that the survival process evolved into another form. It turned into self-preservation in the form of accumulation. This can be wealth, material things, relationships, knowledge, and various other things. Because it is human nature to expand boundlessly, we find limited expression of this in physical form. We do this by making things ours. We want this. This is mine. It is a part of me. This is all that we are doing. Continue reading

Nostalgia

Nostalgia is a very funny feeling to me. The main reason is that when I am nostalgic about the past, I always remember the glory days. It’s just that in my experience of time, the past is always wonderful. The future is always inviting. And the present moment is not the one that I want to be in right now.

The past and the future are wonderful moments to me because I am not in it. If I think about my childhood, it is wonderful. If I think about my college days, and similar events, they are all wonderful. If I think about what the future holds, I get excited. But when I think about the current moment, I just wish it would be different from what it is.

If you are in a situation that you don’t want to be in, then avoidance is a common approach that people take. I do the same thing. Are all my past days wonderful? Of course not. I hardly remember most of them. I just believe and think that those days were amazing because I am no longer in those situations. Continue reading

Manmade Morality

Morality has always been a confusing concept to me. What constitutes good and bad? Who makes the distinction between what is right and wrong or good and bad behavior?

I wrote earlier that we all lived in an inclusive reality, but our views of life are entirely subjective. If our experience of life is generated from within us, then wouldn’t that mean that there is no absolute principle or rule that dictates what is good or bad?

Everybody have their own definition of what is good or bad. Yes, there are external stimuli that can determine your definition of morality. Perhaps you are influenced by your religion, your parents, your surrounding environment, political party, and many other influences. Whatever the case is, how can anyone ever say that an action is good or bad? Good or bad is just your explanation for how the world operates.

Actions, in reality, are not determined by good or bad. If anything, it only operates in the realm of cause and effect. There is a change, or a consequence that follows all activity. Good or bad is not the nature’s doing. It is our doing. It is our karma. Continue reading

Boundless Ignorance

It is said that ignorance is bliss. If you don’t know about something, you don’t have to worry about it. This basically means that lack of knowledge can result in happiness. As a young adult, I agreed with the phrase.

Whenever I looked upon children, I was always awed by their innocence.  They don’t know about the drama in the world, nor do they care. They simply live in a joyful state. It doesn’t take much for a child to be happy.

To me, I have associated bliss with childhood innocence and ignorance. I know this is true because when I was a child, there were a lot less things that I worried about. I only cared about good grades and video games. Continue reading

What Do You Want to Be?

Growing up it has always been definitive that you must know what you want to do when you become an adult. Our parents would always ask us, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Being a child, many of us didn’t know the answer to that question. A few of us might, but the majority of us were clueless. But if I have to be truthful, I knew what I wanted to be in my childhood. I always wanted to be a Pokémon master because I wanted to be the very best!

Yes, I know that being a Pokémon master is just a child’s dream. It is neither a profession nor a career choice. It may seem fun in the beginning because it fulfills my childhood imaginations and fantasies. But, I have long lost interest in Pokémon. Even if this dream of mine was fulfilled, I would have abandoned it long ago.

This is why the question of what you want to be when you grow up never made any sense to me. This question is mostly geared towards children. And most children don’t have the necessary knowledge or experience to answer it. They are in the exploratory and initial learning phase of life. There’s no need to introduce future variables that they know nothing about at the moment. Continue reading

Overcoming Depression

Depression is a highly unpleasant state to be in. If you’ve ever been depressed before, you know that you lose interest in everything you do. Activities and hobbies that bring you joy and happiness no longer satisfy you. Likewise, there is a surging emptiness within you sucking up all life, causing fatigue and lack of energy.

We all know the symptoms of depression. Many of us went through it. It varies in frequency and intensity from one person to another. To be honest with you, I believe that depression is a normal part of life. You can learn a lot about yourself when you are depressed. However, many people are incapable of this because their emotion becomes who they are.

If you can’t discern your emotion from who you are, then it is very easy to be taken for a ride. You don’t know what is going on because at some point you have allowed the external situation to control how you should think. This means that on a certain level, your brain is on autopilot. You are thinking accidentally without your consent.

So what does this have to do with depression? Well, depression, in a sense, is an emotion. It is very easy to let depression control your life. You can do this by simply paying attention to the negative circumstances in your reality. Continue reading

Go Pass Judgment

Judgment has always been a controversial term. It means to come to a conclusion about a certain topic. For many people, the word judgment has a negative connotation. It means that you are comparing, contrasting, and evaluating people, situations, and etc. If you used your judgment, you realized that there are plenty of synonyms for it.

For example, discrimination, categorization, discernment, belief, conclusion, and evaluation are all words that have similar meaning to judgment. When you judge someone, you are in a sense, drawing conclusions based upon the information you have gathered through your senses.

There are many people who believed that judging others is an immoral way to live life. They believe that judgment is the devil’s trait. We must purge ourselves of this trait if we want to coexist in this diverse world. However, if you realized anything, even those who abhor judgments, are making judgments! Continue reading